Get to a safe area as soon as possible.
Call for help. If you cannot call the police or a rape crisis center
yourself have someone call for you as soon as possible.
Getting medical help is a necessity. Even if you do not prosecute
you need to be seen by a doctor who can check for injuries. Sometimes injuries are not always apparent immediately so it's
best to err on the safe side. Antibiotic therapy is often started immediately to lessen the likelihood of disease.
Do not change your clothes(especially if you think you might file
charges). Don't comb your hair, shower, use the bathroom (if possible) or change anything about yourself, until after you've
had an examination by a doctor. Valuable evidence can be destroyed even by something as simple as drinking water or going
to the bathroom. Try very hard not to do these things.
Most of the time police will want to keep your clothing to look
at for evidence. It's a good idea to have someone bring you a complete set of clothing.
If you do report the crime, the police will have some very difficult
questions for you. The questions may not make a lot of sense to you at the time but there is a reason behind each of them.
If you feel uncomfortable answering personal questions to a
man you may be able to ask for a female officer or for a member of your local rape crisis center.
Some statistics are saying that the chances of being raped are 1 in
4. Rape is a crime. It isn't something that you need blame yourself for. It happens because someone wanted to take advantage
of someone else. It has very little to do with sex and is more a crime of power and control where sex is a weapon used against
One thing that is nearly impossible at first is to realize that
what happened to you is not something that was your fault. I don't care what you did, where you were, or what you said, being
raped is not your fault.
You are only responsible for your actions, not for the actions
of another person. The choices you made must have been the right ones if you are able to read this. Not every woman who is
raped lived through it. You did. That's what's most important.
You may ask yourself, repeatedly, "Why did this happen to me?" There
aren't any easy answers. It comes down to a choice one person made to control another person.
Rape isn't a crime about
sex. Sex is only a weapon. It's even harder if you know the person who raped you. Yet, studies show us that most of the time
the person is known to the victim. That doesn't mean that what happened to you wasn't rape. Even if you consented to sex before
but didn't this time, it's still rape.
You may feel completely betrayed because the person who did
this was someone you knew and trusted. However; most rapes are done by people the victim knows and trusts. That's part of
what makes this crime even more awful.
No matter how much you trusted this person, the actions taken
against you are inexcusable. They are not something that were your fault. Any shame that you feel is shame that belongs to
the attacker and not to you. That's easier said than done but it is true.